An Open Letter to Target

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Dear Target,

I’m really sorry to do this to you. I hate open letters. I really didn’t want to write one, but then I saw this OTHER open letter to you circulating the interwebs from some chick named Mary Martha hating on your restroom policy. You know, the policy in which you state you “welcome transgender team members and guests to use the restroom or fitting room facility that corresponds with their gender identity.” In her letter, Mary Martha states she’s afraid for her daughters’ safety in your stores now, positing that because of your progressive stance on inclusion, everyone is now at risk for sexual assault.

I have little nieces and a nephew myself, so I completely understand the fear regarding rape. It’s scary. It really is. And that is why I too am going to have to boycott you, Target, unless you can promise me that no Catholic priests use the bathroom with little boys. Not all priests are bad, of course, but I don’t really know how you enforce this policy without just keeping them all out. Did you know that over 3,000 priests in the last decade were given disciplinary action for the sexual abuse of boys in the church? And that’s just the ones we KNOW about. I did the math. That’s 60 priests per state, and approximately 2 for every Target in the nation. That’s a lot. Now I know that this abuse happened, by and large, outside of Target bathrooms, but that’s not the point. And to be honest, I don’t know how you fix this one, because over 80% of those cases of abuse were same sex. Little boys. Little boys who use the bathroom with men. Frankly I’ve worked myself into a fit about it, and if you can’t find a way to be less inclusive on this one, I’m going to have to stop buying your products. And I don’t want to get off topic here, but that is a damn shame, because your Archer Farms spicy maple bourbon pickle spears are FIRE good.

Target, I just thought of something! If I let my 5-year-old nephew go to the men’s room in K-Mart, a priest could get him there. I mean it’s unlikely, but you never know. You can’t really be too careful. I guess now I’m going to have to write an open letter to K-Mart too. And Piggly Wiggly. And, well, everywhere. This is gonna take a while.

Wait a second. I just thought of something else. I’ll bet those transgender people were ALREADY going to the bathroom of their choice. I’ll bet it would be even WEIRDER if they didn’t. I mean that doesn’t mean you hafta SAY it’s okay or acknowledge them or their feelings at all. You know, if everyone would have just stayed in the closet and learned to live with their god-given shame, like the Catholics wanted, we wouldn’t have to experience these uncomfortable social growing pains. Oh my god, I just thought of something else. I’m going to miss your Market Pantry peanut butter fudge ice cream. It’s hella delicious.

Okay there’s only one way to solve the problem. I can’t think of any other logical outcome. Clearly we must abolish all public restrooms. No one is safe anywhere. If you go shopping, you strap on an adult diaper. That’s it. It’ll become a thing. Shopping diapers, we’ll call them. It’s not weird if everyone does it, right? I mean, it’s kinda gross. Hmmm. Maybe I’ll do some research to see if it can be avoided.

Crap (no pun intended). I knew I shouldn’t have researched. Now I’m evolving on the issue, and I hate evolving, Target. It hurts my brain. Why didn’t I just stick to my gut reaction instead of researching!? WHY? Now I have thoughts, and statistics, like that lady Mary Martha.

  • Like for instance, Mary Martha cited research about rape from RAINN.ORG in her letter. That stands for Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. I’ll bet they’re experts on the topic, and they say that “approximately 4/5 of rapes were committed by someone known to the victim.” In fact, the site LITERALLY states, “THE RAPIST ISN’T A MASKED STRANGER.” Mary Martha didn’t mention that statistic though. I think she was going for the fear factor.
  • I’m not sure why Mary Martha thinks Target’s policy means her daughters will inevitably see a penis. I looked it up. Turns out 100% of women’s restrooms do not have a urinal, meaning everyone tinkles behind a closed door in their own stall.
  • Even so, just the idea of it is SCARY, isn’t it? I guess the only way to know if this could happen is to see if there is any research to support it. (This didn’t really need its own bullet point, but it sets up the next few nicely.)
  • States like Hawaii have had gender neutral bathrooms for 10 years already. The State Civil Rights Commission says their non discrimination law “has not resulted in increase[d] sexual assault or rape.”
  • Cambridge, Massachusetts, has prohibited discrimination since 1997. That’s almost 20 years! According to their police superintendent there are “no incidents” of transgender protections being abused.
  • Minnesota has prohibited discrimination in public accommodations for EVEN LONGER, since 1993. First of all, I had no idea Minnesota was so progressive. Secondly, according to a Minneapolis police spokesman, sexual assaults stemming from the law were “not even remotely” a problem.
  • Many more states have had anti-discrimination laws in place for years to protect transgender people, without any incidents or problems directly arising from them. You can find the source for these statistics here.
  • Mary Martha suggested that 0.85% of the U.S. Population is transgender. Now, she just pulled that figure out of her ass, but since it’s her number let’s go with it. That would be 2,743,477 people. Mary Martha said that’s hardly anybody. Not enough to care about. Seems like a lot to me. I mean, the entire country of Ireland only has 4.5 million people, and probably about the same number of gingers as we do trans people (I just pulled that number out of my ass).
  • Mary Martha says we shouldn’t inconvenience the many for the good of the few. Let’s put aside for a moment that it would be MORE inconvenient to use shopping diapers for 100% safety in all situations. Doesn’t that argument sound a lot like George Wallace refusing to integrate schools in 1963? It’s not the black people, he said. They’re not bad. But integrating them causes all kinds of other problems. It’s disruptive to the white kids who are just trying to learn. Those poor white children, getting all inconvenienced and shit.
  • Wait a second, Target, don’t you have something called the family bathroom for anyone who wants to go in with their children? And isn’t that family restroom just one room by itself with a locked door? I just remembered! This solves everything! Someone tell Mary Martha.
  • I ran across some really alarming statistics about transgender suicide rates. Did you know the prevalence of suicide attempts among respondents to the National Transgender Discrimination Survey (NTDS) is 41 percent? By comparison the overall U.S. Population who report a lifetime suicide attempt is only 4.6!!! That’s sad, Target. It seems like the trans community might feel… I don’t know… not wanted or something.
  • Speaking of which, 57% of trans people have families who have shunned them. 50 – 54% have been bullied at school. 60% have had a doctor refuse to treat them. This next statistic is interesting, since Mary Martha was talking about sexual assault. 64-65% of gender non-conforming people suffered physical or sexual violence at work. 63-78% suffered physical or sexual violence at school. And 69% have experienced homelessness. Target, I’m starting to feel things and I DON’T LIKE IT.

You know, the more I sit here and think, the more I realize you can’t really control everything that goes on in your stores, Target. Not even priests, although I still find them kind of sketchy. But what you CAN do is promote change that will help a group of very disenfranchised people. What you CAN do is get rid of discrimination where you see it. What you CAN do is ignore protesters with their boogeyman tactics. Since all the data points to the fact that these laws and policies have never brought harm to anyone, what’s the big deal? I can’t help but think it’s a red herring, Target. A distraction from the truth.

One thing is for sure. I do NOT want to miss getting my Starbucks on while shopping for home decor items I don’t really need. It’s my fave. And Target, now that we’ve settled all this, I’ll be peeing in you soon. That didn’t come across right. I know you know what I mean. And I gotta say, I am more than a little relieved not to worry about shopping diapers.

Sincerely,
Christa

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273 Comments on this post

  • Jessica

    April 24, 2016 at 6:50 pm
    This is just the best.
  • Jennifer

    April 24, 2016 at 10:13 pm
    YAY, Christa!
  • Angie Howe

    April 24, 2016 at 11:46 pm
    I'm not sure bashing Catholics is getting your point of getting rid of discrimination across like you think. Just like all priests are not child molesters, and all transgendered people are not trying to make everyone uncomfortable, all Catholics are not closed minded. Good try though 👍 honest effort, i guess. Keep working on it, though.
    • Aunt Mommy

      April 25, 2016 at 4:16 pm
      If you read the letter through the lens of satire, I think it's clear I have no ill will toward Catholics. The remarks are meant to be taken as hyperbole.
  • Melissa Graham

    April 25, 2016 at 4:38 am
    Feel free to sign and share http://www.thepetitionsite.com/542/033/213/pledge-to-support-target-as-they-endorse-equal-human-rights/
  • Jamie

    April 25, 2016 at 2:51 pm
    Yes! Thank you!
  • Melissa McLaren

    April 25, 2016 at 3:20 pm
    I heart you so much. This level of sarcasm resonates in my soul.
  • Charlize

    April 25, 2016 at 3:24 pm
    Love it :)
  • Amy

    April 25, 2016 at 3:27 pm
    So funny and so perfectly said
  • Jen

    April 25, 2016 at 3:29 pm
    OMG, best letter ever!!!! :)
  • Morgan

    April 25, 2016 at 3:42 pm
    I heart this open letter so much.
  • Erin

    April 25, 2016 at 4:19 pm
    This is the absolute best thing I have read against these ridiculous bathroom laws. Thank you on behalf of my dear friends who are transgender.
  • Sue

    April 25, 2016 at 5:08 pm
    Mic. Drop. Someone please send this to Ted Cruz, and all Republicans & Transgender haters you know. Brilliant!
  • Cheryl

    April 25, 2016 at 6:09 pm
    Christa...you are brilliant, I heart you and I hope this gets more shares than Mary Margaret does! We'll all be able to recognize her because she'll be wearing Walmart and decorating from the Dollar Tree.
  • Jenny

    April 25, 2016 at 6:41 pm
    Amazing! I loved every second of this!
  • Smr1168

    April 25, 2016 at 6:41 pm
    You are a bunch of immoral fools. That letter is ridiculous. YOU are the end of America as we know it...thanks.
    • Aunt Mommy

      April 26, 2016 at 2:14 am
      So I guess I won't be seeing you in Target.
  • Sue

    April 25, 2016 at 6:44 pm
    Great job. I love your humor. This whole thing makes me crazy. This isn't something new. There did the politicians think our beautiful freinds have been going since they had indoor toilets?
  • Vickie

    April 25, 2016 at 7:10 pm
    She specifically stated that not all priests are preditors. There's a difference between stating facts and bashing.
  • Libby

    April 25, 2016 at 7:37 pm
    Love this!
  • Stephanie

    April 25, 2016 at 7:38 pm
    so you had to #notallpriests in order to ignore the rampant truths dropped? You really are part of the problem. I'm a minister, and I got the joke.
  • Kelly Darke

    April 25, 2016 at 8:03 pm
    brilliant!
  • ChooseGood

    April 25, 2016 at 9:16 pm
    Hooray! The America you "know" sounds full of fear, hatred and bigotry. Ending THAT would be a good start.
  • Candy McDowall

    April 25, 2016 at 9:29 pm
    You're welcome.
  • Mary Creed

    April 25, 2016 at 9:51 pm
    I agree with Angie H. Painting another group in a negative light to bring about change is wrong. Let me just pose this question, would you support the criminal statistics of minorities be used to support your position? It would be wrong and disgusting. What about saying Muslims have a higher propensity for suicide bombing in public places than any other individuals therefor all Muslims should not be allowed in bathrooms and changing areas until transgenders are allowed to choose. Doesn't make much sense either does it? I support efforts in helping the transgender community, but my support is only for those that don't put down others to advance their position. You not only went after the priest, but Catholics as a whole. I appreciate sarcasm as much as the next person, but it would've been more impressive if you had targeted a group that has a louder voice. You simply recycled an overused target in a negative way to go up against one person that you took grievance with. Please remember that Jews and even more so Muslims are very much against transgenders. Here's a fun read next time you want to focus on Catholics. http://www.businessinsider.com/two-hacked-to-death-by-militants-in-bangladesh-2016-4 Consider using compassion and request for understanding when trying to educate others/ close minded individuals.
    • Aunt Mommy

      April 26, 2016 at 2:55 am
      I shouldn't even respond to this but I'm bored tonight. If you understand satire--and maybe you don't--the goal is to use irony and exaggeration to an absurd extent in order to make a point. To that end, I used the Catholic priest statistics (which are real) to illustrate how ridiculous the bathroom culture war is. There are several points actually being made. 1) Don't assume sexual abuse is cross-gender. 2) Don't assume sexual abuse is from a stranger. 3) Don't use statistics that don't matter in your argument. Of course the priest statistics are completely irrelevant and distracting from the issue. In order to expose a weakness on the other side's argument, I doubled-down on their tactic of quoting scary sounding facts that have nothing to do with the problem. That's the point. That's part of the satire. I do not believe I am picking on Catholics. First of all, I didn't say anything untrue. Secondly, Catholic priests abused a position of power, unlike your suggestions. Thirdly, there IS such a thing as Catholic guilt (you may have experienced it yourself). And finally, I think it's interesting that you feel Catholics are such a minority ("it would've been more impressive if you had targeted a group that has a louder voice"). Last time I checked (one minute ago) Christians in general make up the vast majority--70%--of the US population, with Catholics second only to Protestants. TOGETHER Muslims and Jews only make up 3%. But I'll take the higher ground here... [ahem] Please accept my sincerest apologies... Even though it's satire. And the statistics are real. And you actually enjoy the comfort of being in a religious majority. By the way, I love the Pope.
  • Ann Kelley

    April 25, 2016 at 10:30 pm
    Christa, is it to late for you to run for president?
  • Kim

    April 25, 2016 at 11:45 pm
    Genius!!!
  • Kelly Salasin

    April 26, 2016 at 12:20 am
    Best. Ever.
  • Tina

    April 26, 2016 at 1:02 am
    Here's an idea. Let's round up the pedophiles and rapists and KEEP them in prison, so they can't frequent Target's restrooms. I applaud Target's stance, and this letter is one of the best on this subject. Well done!
  • amanda weidmann

    April 26, 2016 at 1:04 am
    you should also mention politicians so many get caught in bathrooms these days. great letter thanks for posting it
  • Cecilia Rice

    April 26, 2016 at 1:12 am
    I loved this letter! Thank you for writing it. I must admit though I dislike Walmart, I go there when I near to buy household crap, cheaply. Target is a bit more expensive. Since the crazy boycott folks started their rant, I have now switched to shopping for those needs ONLY at Target to show my support.
  • Vee

    April 26, 2016 at 1:17 am
    I know lots of Catholics and am SURE they can handle the "bashing."
  • Vee

    April 26, 2016 at 1:18 am
    I am neither immoral nor a fool. I LOVED this essay. Thanks.
  • Michelle

    April 26, 2016 at 1:21 am
    This is the absolute best!! I love it!!
  • deekay59

    April 26, 2016 at 2:12 am
    The end of America as we know it....if you mean an America where it's just fine to make life a living hell for anyone who's different from YOU, then it sounds like something to celebrate to me. Your opinion is duly noted....and dismissed. Have a nice life.
  • KingCakeGirl

    April 26, 2016 at 2:30 am
    This is ridiculously ignorant. I have a news flash for you: if some pervert wants to molest or hurt your child, NO laws will stop him/her/it from using the same restroom. Your fears are groundless, based in misinformation, and just plain silly.
  • Erin

    April 26, 2016 at 2:34 am
    This is amazing!! The negative comments are absurd. Catholic, Baptist, Muslim, Jewish, Buddist.... Whatever you are, it's called Kindness my friends....practice it.
  • Shaniqua

    April 26, 2016 at 3:37 am
    sooooo...if trans were using the restrooms they wanted to anyway - why the need for these laws...?
  • Christy

    April 26, 2016 at 4:10 am
    I not only really enjoyed your letter, but also your responses to the negative and ignorant responses you've received so far. First people are pissed because Target doesn't want to 'gender specify' their toys, now this. How about instead of signing a petition to not go to Target, you just don't go? Who gives a s*** whether you go there or not? I don't! Gah! People are so whiny! Sorry, rant over. Well done!
  • MOM

    April 26, 2016 at 4:50 am
    Just how much information do you have up your ass? Just wondering. PS. Well written article, and rebuttals. I hope you did not have to pull too much information out of your ass for those... It just seems like it would be painful
  • River Song

    April 26, 2016 at 5:42 am
    As a Catholic transgender woman, I am totally shocked that you admit liking market pantry peanut butter fudge icecream. But given that everything else you said was spot on, I can forgive. Please note that should I find myself at target, and have to use the powder room, I will be as quick as possible and will not commit any crimes. I have no desire to harm anyone in any way, and I pray no one harms me. Thanks for your open letter. RIVER
    • Aunt Mommy

      April 26, 2016 at 8:53 am
      LOL :)
  • Iain St James

    April 26, 2016 at 6:36 am
    Dear Aunt Mommy, As a gay man with many Trans friends I thank You so much for this letter. May I please forward this to my senator, SENATOR AL FRANKEN? Besides being a great senator, he once tried to make a living as a satirist,but found his skills better at use in the Untied States Senate. I think he would appreciate this very much.
    • Aunt Mommy

      April 26, 2016 at 8:53 am
      Please do!
  • Alice

    April 26, 2016 at 6:44 am
    kool everything i have wanted to say to phobes neat
  • Darren

    April 26, 2016 at 6:49 am
    LOL amazing letter!!! Loved every bit of it, and from this transgender male, I applaud you and appreciate your incredible support. It means the world!!
  • William Favaro

    April 26, 2016 at 8:40 am
    I'm Catholic and that was funny and informative. I live in long beach and was a waiter at shore house cafe for years. The number of people I served in a four year period was in the tens of thousands. They all came in gay/straight/bi/master and slave/tranny/cross dressers/etc.. The only problems I ever had in the bathroom was straight people screwing and squatters(not homeless but scared to touch the toilet seat). I'm going to keep shopping at Target
  • Dave

    April 26, 2016 at 11:11 am
    I was quite pleased to find this web page. I wanted to thanks for your time for this terrific read!! I surely enjoying just about every little bit of it and I've you bookmarked to take a look at new stuff you blog post.
  • Joan

    April 26, 2016 at 12:22 pm
    Damn, now Angie is going to have to look up the word hyperbole!
  • Marianne Flammang

    April 26, 2016 at 12:28 pm
    This was great. Obviously there are people who just don't "get it".
  • Josephine A Perry

    April 26, 2016 at 12:39 pm
    It's satire. It works. It's a clever way to get at the root of the issue. Brava!
  • Lee Cornell

    April 26, 2016 at 12:56 pm
    So perfect!!!
  • John

    April 26, 2016 at 1:04 pm
    Congrats on completely misunderstanding the issue.
  • Johannah

    April 26, 2016 at 1:20 pm
    Amazing - perfect and I wish I had written this!
  • Christina Black

    April 26, 2016 at 1:22 pm
    I don't think we need more laws to "protect us'. There was already a process in place called the "family restroom". Perhaps we could re-name is the Single Use or Private Restroom for those who need a little extra privacy and honestly I don't care WHO uses it, as long as they don't jump in front of me and they wait their turn. I do however feel that NO justice was served, except to enrage the public, homophobes, and others. I WILL tell you that my daughter DID see a penis this weekend in the women's restroom at the Earth Day Festival in Dallas. There were both mens and womens restrooms (multi use) and a Family Restroom. The Family Restroom was occupied and the men's restroom was "closed for cleaning". Two big burly men (drunk) walked right into the women's restroom and each took a stall. One of them didn't even bother to shut the bathroom door and peed. As I gave him a disapproving look, he shrugged his shoulders and said,"Hey, what can I say, I think I might be a woman". I'm not afraid of the transgendered individuals using which ever restroom, but by putting it "in your face" in the public eye, it opens the doors for "opportynity" for those who are either angered by the situation to retaliate or by those who are just lazy, cynical or disgusting to abuse a system which in the first place wasn't broken because, in most cases, there was already a private restroom that these individuals could have used. No I had to explain to my 9 year old, why this happened and discuss the social climate with my children so that they can be prepared to see "whatever". Annd..... I'll be with all the backlash, that the transgendered community will be calling for new laws in the future from all the backlash, by requesting that businesses and government make "separate bathrooms" labeled "transgendered", when as I said before, we already had private "family restrooms" which cold be re-named. Sounds like we accomplished much of nothing except now to encite women everywhere to be afraid and carry firearms or go out and get CCL. I don't think we obtained much justice. We just made a mess out of nothing. Sad.
  • Brad

    April 26, 2016 at 1:33 pm
    Its what progressives do, they bash everything to try and make their point look good. Men in little girls bathrooms is not satire Auntie.....wait until something happens and then you can really write satire...sick people
  • Batya

    April 26, 2016 at 1:38 pm
    This is super smart and to the point. Thank you for speaking out on behalf of a lot of people who don't always have a voice.
  • Michelle P

    April 26, 2016 at 1:48 pm
    Hoping this goes viral. I think the Pope would love you too! I certainly do.
  • Cindy Hartzell

    April 26, 2016 at 1:49 pm
    Love this!!
  • Moody girl

    April 26, 2016 at 2:14 pm
    I'm Catholic and I caught on to your satire right away. Loved it. I have read articles and news stories about people being attacked or abused in bathrooms all my adult life, (There was a man, a real man who sexally abused a small boy in a burger king in my town) and many where straight people attacked gay or transgender people, but not one story has ever crossed my path of a transgender attacking or abusing anybody in a bathroom. I loved your way of using satire to show how ridiculous these bathroom laws are. I'm expecting to see a bathroom cop standing at the bathroom doors in public demanding to see my birth certificate to prove which one I could use. Oh, I know a girl who is transgender and she looks so much like a man, it would make me nervous if she used the girls room, and I know her.
  • Tina Derby Robbins

    April 26, 2016 at 2:26 pm
    As a former Target employee and forever Target shopper, Thank You! Thank you for saying everything that has been on mind every time I see a ignorant post on the topic.
  • Carrie

    April 26, 2016 at 4:14 pm
    Every time I take my niece or nephew shopping I take them to the restroom with me. I don't care how old they are (they are 6-7 currently). I don't trust anyone around them (they are still babies to me). I watch over them just as I did with my own child. She is now old enough to take care of herself (18). You never know who is in there just waiting for them. This was an exceptional letter!!
  • Momof2boys

    April 26, 2016 at 4:32 pm
    This was great!!! And I agree... We've probably been peeing with them for years and not knowing it... Leave it be... Unless a creepy guy comes in dressed in drag, then you might want to call management. .. LMAO Love your sarcasm! !! #momof2boys
  • Tammy Knudtson

    April 26, 2016 at 4:35 pm
    Well said! You have just put into words what I haven't been able to and done with a great twist of humor. I have a transgender son and anyone who knows him knows that he is a 'real' person. This topic is just so disturbing. Thank you!!!
  • J. Bruce Wilcox

    April 26, 2016 at 4:40 pm
    Aunt Mommy- you're way too smart for the room filled with all these judgmental religious assholes! FAG- here. I was 8 years old the first time I got bashed for not being a heterosexual. I'm almost 63 now- so that was in 1961. Guess who was giving out all that heterosexist abuse! That's right! Religious (mormon) STRAIGHT people. But when god's on your side- it's OK to discriminate and abuse anyone who isn't just like you!!! I lived through 10 years of that abuse- contemplating suicide much of the time- then escaped. Guess what! The closer I've gotten to equality- the greater the hate has risen to the surface. Note: It's 2016. That visible hatred is everywhere. Anyway- I lived long enough to become an award winning internationally recognized fiber artist! So as much as they try- I REFUSE to be labeled as a one-dimensional human- where who I am as a sexual being is the only way you get to look at me. Sorry. You hater's lose. I WON. Thanks. Great read. I shared it.
  • Ruth

    April 26, 2016 at 4:52 pm
    You know those classes on financial literacy? Well, there should be one for satirical literacy. Sheesh!! Some of those comments above....smh. Maybe we should call the course "Transarcastic Studies." The first day could be spent explaining the title. As for your open letter, well done, ma'am. Personally, I am very relieved not to have to use an adult diaper whilst shopping (at least not for a good while yet I hope). As a middle-aged female professor with a very small bladder, I thank ya kindly for clearing that up. May logic, science, and public restrooms ever rule.
  • Barbara Wojciak

    April 26, 2016 at 4:56 pm
    Oh my gosh! I haven't laughed this hard in a long time. Christa, your letter is priceless, for so many reasons. Using humor to highlight the absurdity of the attempt to hide bigotry behind the facade of guarding against harm is a classic way to help everyone see the truth of what is motivating this idiocy. Thank you, Christa. See you in Target!
  • speechchick25

    April 26, 2016 at 5:36 pm
    I think she understands it beautifully. Perhaps you should reread for comprehension.
  • Shalon

    April 26, 2016 at 6:08 pm
    But, that is exactly the point.
  • SP

    April 26, 2016 at 6:14 pm
    Your satire isn't lost on me, trust in that. The only point I would agree on is not so much your distain for religion (you could have used some other group and still got your hyperbole, but I'll take that at face value none-the-less) but men in general. As a man, father, and husband, I'm not-so-much worried about my daughter and wife getting raped in a restroom, moreover pissed-off that people will simply look right over the fact that men dress as women, and it happens every friggin day, simply to gain access to the ladies room. For example, last July, LaGuardia airport bathroom. My wife and daughter are jerked off on by a dude who started in a stall next to my 13yro and finished in the sink. Apparently his fetish was listening to women pee...who knew that was hot? Most of my concern is the one group that we totally stopped referring to, transvestites. None of us would know the difference. Hey if you have the equipment, and you gone full transgender, no one is going to know the difference anyway. But if you're in the ladies room, beating your meat like it stole something or just to have a look around, well, I'm going to have a big problem with that. On the other hand (see what I did there), it probably would be safer for the trans/pan/ci-gendered with OEM parts to use the bathroom that they identify with because lets say a "girl" with a dick goes to say an Oakland Raiders game, enters the restroom in all her glory and then unleashes the beast. I'm thinking there is a very, very good chance they don't come out of the bathroom and eat their next meal through a tube. Talk about playing for the other team...people have been beat to death just for being the opposing fan. Again, just one little example. With all that being said, I'm a Vagitarian, my favorite color is Vagenta, if you're a woman identifying as a man and want to come over to my restroom and try and figure out how to squat on a urinal, be my guest, if you figure it out I'm sure to be impressed. If you want to impress the men even more, go cop a squat on one of those clogged shitters that the last person pissed all over the seat and smells like a port-o-john at a grateful dead show. Let's just make sure you haven't been stuck in 1984 with one of those big ol carpets...let's keep it tight - its all good.
  • Ariana

    April 26, 2016 at 6:30 pm
    Thank you so much auntie for your wonderfully witty letter. Though, some may never understand the nuances of satire, they also overlook the statistics you shared. As a transwoman, I am grateful and blessed by your letter and will share this with those who oppose to test their own wits. Thank you for making my day. I will me smiling every time I think of this. ॐ Peace, Love, Light, Much Happiness ॐ
  • Kristine66

    April 26, 2016 at 6:33 pm
    It must be awful, all the things your religion has taken from you, like Archer Farms products.. Why would you prefer to go back to 1940, and live in the past? I hear the Taliban is looking for a few good women
  • Beth-Ann Bloom

    April 26, 2016 at 6:47 pm
    Bravo!
  • keely wood

    April 26, 2016 at 7:10 pm
    BEST EVER AUNT MOMMY
  • E R

    April 26, 2016 at 7:52 pm
    Where did you get the info on MN and that statement? I knew that MN already had the Human Rights Act which covers some of this. But the MPLS snippet is beautiful. Target only said something because of the increase in the level of overt hatred.
  • Kathryn

    April 26, 2016 at 8:01 pm
    They'd have to read it to get it. Judging by their rants, there isn't much of an education there...
  • Kathryn

    April 26, 2016 at 8:03 pm
    This letter is perfectly written.
  • Linda L Halvorson

    April 26, 2016 at 8:41 pm
    So agree!
  • JDR1966

    April 26, 2016 at 8:50 pm
    Right ON!!!!
  • Anna

    April 26, 2016 at 9:07 pm
    your "Hyperbole" is so uncalled for. You just wanted to interject that in there so that it is two birds with one stone. You can support the idea, but I hate it when people have to step on something else to make their point stand out. THAT IS YOU!
  • Mellissalynn

    April 26, 2016 at 9:44 pm
    Sarcasm Ultimate Level - ACHIEVED! :)
  • Carole

    April 26, 2016 at 9:45 pm
    love that you're the only fool who doesn't have an actual name.
  • Bruce Lewis

    April 26, 2016 at 9:58 pm
    First off I am a straight male in a heterosexual relationship. That being said my mother always preached to me that we are all individuals and are different from each other in many ways. When I was young my grandpa would sell his house and move if a (negro)family would move within 12 blocks of him. To this day I still can't figure that out (I am 62) That was him yet his own daughter had and passed on her acceptance and compassion for all people. I am happy in my skin and believe all humans have that same right. I give you 5 plus stars.
  • Amanda

    April 26, 2016 at 10:17 pm
    Because state of North Carolina, and other states following suit, passed laws stating that you must use the bathroom of the gender your birth certificate states. Meaning, a Transgender person could be arrested for using the bathroom they have always used.
  • S

    April 26, 2016 at 10:34 pm
    Bra-vo! Your satire is astounding! And now that I have to make sure that no one follows me into the Target bathrooms I will start checking on the adult diaper thing. Thank you for that wonderful idea by the way, I wasn't sure what I was going to do when and if I needed the bathroom when in Target and for that matter if I attended a Catholic Church. Whooooo, disaster averted! Answer: Adult Diapers for all!
  • CrushBigots

    April 26, 2016 at 11:29 pm
    More peanut butter fudge ice cream for us then! Yes!!!
  • Chloe

    April 26, 2016 at 11:38 pm
    Ummmmmm, trans women are not going to be peeing with the stall door open. I am sorry to inform you but we do not want you to see what we may or may not have in our pants. Also, I hate to be the grammar nazi here but transgendered is not a word you can't be transgendered. You can indeed be transgender. Saying these transgendered people used the bathroom is not the correct term. These transgender people used the bathroom would be more fitting. Not trying to be a cunt about it just doing me do diligence in educating. Also on another note, a third restroom or requiring businesses to make another toilet for trans people. First off that is about as dumb as the 60s and 70s when they made separate water fountains for black people. And you know what it was never about a water fountain it was about misplaced hate.
  • Allissa

    April 26, 2016 at 11:55 pm
    If you don't like the fact that she is promoting change for the better perhaps you should move to Canada......Oh wait they've had this in affect longer then we have. You could go to Mexico but then again some parts are doing this. Oh no what ever shall you do?!?
  • D

    April 27, 2016 at 12:00 am
    Actually, to make someone use the bathroom of the gender they were born would make it MORE convenient for an actually sexual predator to go in which ever bathroom they chose because, if seen, you couldn't keep them out because you wouldn't know if they were transgender. More staggering is the statistic on doctors refusing treatment to a transgender person. They take an OATH to help EVERYONE. Would those same doctors help a convicted murderer?
  • Jack Siegel

    April 27, 2016 at 12:52 am
    Depends on how you define immoral. If morality means you can openly discriminate, hate people who are different than you, then by all means call me immoral.
  • Andrew

    April 27, 2016 at 1:01 am
    As a transgender male "Thank you". There is so much ignorance on who transgender people are. If it's a man in the woman's bathroom their not transgender same for a woman in the mans bathroom. You may look at the outside and see a woman you would be mistaken. I have know since the age of 3 I was a boy but because of ignorance and the confined thinking of society at that time I could not accept myself. I was taught to hate who I was you can imagine the problems that came from that. Now that I have broken free of that thinking I am flourishing as a human being. If you judge someone by your perspective you miss out on an amazing gift. No I'm not perfect but no one is. All I want is to live my life authentically. To not be bullied or discriminated against because of who you perceive me to be instead of getting to know me. Thank you so much for this article not only did it make me laugh so hard my ribs hurt but it helped get me out of a bad place brought on from the onslaught of ignorant people.
  • Karla Rusch

    April 27, 2016 at 1:11 am
    Great letter! You rock. : )
  • Julia

    April 27, 2016 at 1:34 am
    I (a lesbian) who sometimes dresses on the tomboyish side get the weirdest looks in the girls room despite having hair down to my waste and a full face of makeup. So I can't even began to imagine what would happen if a transgender person walked into the bathroom of the gender they were assigned at birth but look like the complete opposite gender! The good news is that you've introduced the world to shopping diapers so those who feel un safe in the bathroom with targets new rule can wear those! Problem solved I'm sure target even sells them. Great letter❤️
  • Lindsey

    April 27, 2016 at 1:44 am
    Not only am I Catholic but also a manager at Target and having been reading everything from the good to the down right hateful things written about our policy. This is the best thing I've read. It is amazing the phone calls and complaints we've received and most of them are from moms. Of course, I'm somewhat forced to keep my mouth shut. But a quick fix would also be getting out of line for Starbucks and going with your daughter to the restroom if you are concerned for her safety rather than sending her in alone. Either way, boycott or don't, Target will be just fine and will continue to love and support our employees and guest because of their differences, not in spite of them.
  • Lindsey Meyer

    April 27, 2016 at 1:45 am
    Damn autocorrect. Promise I'm more well spoken than it may appear.
  • Jake

    April 27, 2016 at 2:10 am
    Correction: absolutely no transgender people want to make you uncomfortable. You're just uncomfortable.
  • Heather

    April 27, 2016 at 3:01 am
    I had no idea people had such an irrational fear of the bathroom before this whole thing came up. Really, is that why other women go to the bathroom in packs? I always just went on my own. We've been peeing next to transgender individuals for our entire lives. Unless you start knocking on stalls in target, inquiring loudly about people's plumbing, this changes absolutely nothing. Except, you know, a HUGE company coming out and being wicked cool. What's it like to live with so much fear? I don't get it. And I've had a shitty, shitty life. I SHOULD be afraid. Anyway, I loved this piece. Sarcasm is the language of love around here so it spoke to my soul. Good luck with the crazies.
  • Chad

    April 27, 2016 at 3:22 am
    It's called satire and it was done with perfection, not malice
  • Chad

    April 27, 2016 at 3:24 am
    Boom
  • Julia Ludwig

    April 27, 2016 at 3:43 am
    I disagree completely! Perfecto. ❤️👍🏼🙃
  • Kate O'Brien Bronson

    April 27, 2016 at 3:54 am
    Your ignorance is palpable and embarrassing to those who share your viewpoint. I am not transgender but I know what it is like to be lost in a world of misunderstanding. As a child with an adult genius level IQ I was a bit shunned. Probably by the likes of you. I now own myself and my principles and will stand against the flow of stench created by people who lack the capacity to think outside of their own little world. Grow up, look outside yourself and stop behaving like a toddler who understands nothing but their own small, insular, self-absorbed world.
  • jmp

    April 27, 2016 at 3:54 am
    I still want to know how they intend to enforce these laws. Do we have to lift our skirts and pull down our pants to go to the restroom now? Umm, DNA tests to get through the door? Can we just drop this subject please. As long as no one is watching me pee at that store, I guess I'm good.
  • Kate O'Brien Bronson

    April 27, 2016 at 3:59 am
    Thank you for your superbly sarcastic prose. Perfect! I will shop at only Target until the rest of the world catches up. Yes, I am from Minnesota!
  • Ugh

    April 27, 2016 at 4:22 am
    Because America as we know it has been so fantastic this whole time, right? God forbid some GOOD happens here.
  • Ugh

    April 27, 2016 at 4:26 am
    LMAO. From the person who feels the need to toot their own horn about their IQ. Listen, lots of people have high IQ's. What that doesn't equate to is us being closed minded. Self-absorbed? Own world? Sounds a lot like these people who are boycotting a store for literally changing nothing. And you realize that if you are trying to boycott all companies who support trans rights, you'll be boycotting all these companies as well, right? That sounds like a fun life... [link - http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/04/26/all-the-things-you-can-no-longer-buy-if-you-re-really-boycotting-trans-friendly-businesses.html?source=TDB&via=FB_Page]
  • Jincy

    April 27, 2016 at 4:50 am
    Would you like to mansplain it to us?
  • Jincy

    April 27, 2016 at 4:52 am
    That was supposed to be a response to John. Sorry if it landed in the wrong spot.
  • Eddie Jarman

    April 27, 2016 at 5:28 am
    Wow! It's great that, like the author of this piece, you also present FACTS and RATIONALE so magnificently, I'll bet you're a real success in life, family and the priesthood! Kudos to you and living your life in fear!
  • Carmen

    April 27, 2016 at 5:39 am
    Of course Minnesota is progressive! It's the home of Target!!
  • Disappointed

    April 27, 2016 at 6:09 am
    You claim this piece is satirical but I can't find anything humorous about rape, especially since you point to real rape statistics. This "satirical" piece is vituperating and vilifies A group of men. Hmmm, sounds familiar... Oh same thing Mary Martha did!
  • Amhairghen

    April 27, 2016 at 7:07 am
    As the brother of a trans woman: thank you so much. Being gay myself, I've had to endure a lot of abuse in my life from ignorant bigots, many of them Bible-thumping. But the abuse that I've suffered has paled in comparison, at times, to the abuse suffered by my sister. Your satire is spot-on; this whole business has nothing to do with anything other than an abject hatred and fear of anything different. There has never been a danger to society from trans people, just as there's never been a danger to society from gay people. But there's always been a danger to society from intolerant bigotry and the people who promulgate it. Particularly those who do so in the name of faith.
  • Randy D.

    April 27, 2016 at 7:30 am
    How about we all start defficating in their parking lots between empty vehicles.
  • Mary Margaret

    April 27, 2016 at 10:25 am
    Wow, you're not real smart, are you? Hope you shop at Walmart. This is brilliant.
  • Erin Vaughn

    April 27, 2016 at 12:15 pm
    Go ahead and boycott you ignorant, closed minded, under educated morons! It will make my shopping experience much more enjoyable just knowing that I won't be running into idiots like you while I'm spending my hard earned money at Target and places like Target, that chose to do the right thing and NOT discriminate against anyone! Even stupid people like you!
  • Sara

    April 27, 2016 at 1:20 pm
    I sit and think about how many times I have used a public restroom or even the restroom while shopping at Target. I can honestly sit here and say that I have maybe used the bathroom 2 times in my 40 years on this earth well maybe not my whole 40 but as an adult. If you use the bathroom while on a Target run, maybe you should follow your parents advise and use the bathroom before you leave your house. then you wont have to worry about what is going on in the bathrooms. I don't use public restrooms because i fear what might happen but out of personal preference of wanting to be in the privacy of my own home. There is nothing more disgusting than listening to someone else rid of their body waste.
  • WANETTA CZARNECKI

    April 27, 2016 at 1:55 pm
    I so go with the comment about bashing others including the Catholic Priest.
  • T

    April 27, 2016 at 2:21 pm
    I don't know any people who have a problem with Target's new policy because they are afraid of or do not support the transgender population. I'm sure that those people are out there, but thank goodness that I don't know them. I agree that transgender people should be allowed to use whatever restroom they want to. TRANSGENDER PEOPLE. Not EVERYONE. Yes, parents should escort their children into a restroom when they are young. But what about when they are not young? What about your beautiful 13-year-old entering the women's restroom, followed in by a man who is not transgender and just thinks that your daughter looks hot? Is that okay, too? In your words: "States like Hawaii have had gender neutral bathrooms for 10 years already....''” Awesome! Gender neutral bathrooms are absolutely the solution - Not allowing ANY man or woman to go into the opposite gendered restroom just because they can. Many Targets already have a gender-neutral or family restroom, so why are they giving this new option to the entire population? I don't care if a transgender person shares the restroom with me; I care if someone else (who may have ulterior motives) takes advantage of this policy just because they can.
  • Mary J

    April 27, 2016 at 2:31 pm
    Good read! Funny! Write some more please, I like a mid day giggle😀
  • SUSAN

    April 27, 2016 at 2:40 pm
    SARA- I agree with you ! I almost never use a public restroom and especially don't use a port-a-potty! just thought I's let the world know that little fact about me! As for the main topic of this very awesome letter--personally I could care less about which bathroom a person uses as long as they know that if I caught ANYONE abusing ANYONE ANYWHERE they better be ready to pay the piper because I will get medieval on them! anyways--PEACE and LOVE !
  • aurora

    April 27, 2016 at 3:24 pm
    That's the problem though. If a big man dressed in drag comes in, you can't call management because the law protects him now.
  • Tammy Wooster

    April 27, 2016 at 3:35 pm
    Thank you so much, as a mother of a transgender son (now daughter) I appreciate that she can pee when she has to and not have to resort to diapers (lol what a unique concept) I was really wondering who Mary was thinking should be the bathroom police and does anyone want the job of checking your genitals upon entry to the restroom. Also who has time for that? I am sure we have all had that "i've gotta go moment" and would object to unnecessary delays at the entrance to the restroom. Thank you again, gave me a laugh and some reassurance that the bathroom police are not everyone. :)
  • Miriam Levine

    April 27, 2016 at 3:47 pm
    Jews are not against transgender people (the word is an adjective, not a noun) as a whole. Orthodox Jews may be, in keeping with their feelings on all LGBTQ people, but Reform Judaism just specifically affirmed support for the rights of transgender people to be protected by law and reaffirmed a commitment to the full inclusion of transgender people in within the Reform community, a commitment that's existed since 1978. We know that transgenderism is just another of the many different ways that humans are created b'tselem Elohim, in the Image of G-d. So you can take our name out of your gross little argument, thank you very much.
  • Sherry

    April 27, 2016 at 3:50 pm
    Have you seen the movie Spotlight?? Priests molesting boys was and is a real thing! And the church covered it up! Do you really want to try and defend that?
  • Sherry

    April 27, 2016 at 3:52 pm
    My comment was directed to Mary Creed
  • Steve

    April 27, 2016 at 3:57 pm
    I have to agree here. I know it's tongue and cheek but let's put this another way. Let's say you are defending African Americans in the fifties with the same colored bathroom skit, but you use Chicanos as your example as a tongue n cheek way of getting your point across....
  • Kristine

    April 27, 2016 at 4:47 pm
    Not for nothing but if your really worried then just use the family rest room with your kids....problem solved
  • Jennifer

    April 27, 2016 at 5:00 pm
    Jews are SO not "against" transgenders. Talk about things that you understand. Because my synagogue is just about the most inclusive place I've ever been- which means even your nonsensical fear/lie-spreading self would be welcome.
  • Heather

    April 27, 2016 at 5:20 pm
    You know, you're right. Let's open yet another door of opportunity to the perverts of this world (pun intended). And by perverts, I am not referring to the transgender community (anyone can be a pervert). But yes, the perverts of this world are just that: opportunists. If they see a chance to get to our boys and girls of the opposite sex and they can have that chance, they'll do just that. The whole point of having Men and Women's rooms in the first place is to establish safety to at least some degree. Yes, we can't protect our children from everything but a designated area where they can feel safe doing vulnerable activities (i.e. using the restrooms, getting changed) should at least be there and Target has ripped that measure of safety away from us. This is just one more way to NOT protect our children's innocence. If you are a mother and your mother bear instinct is not going off due to Target's new policy, then you need to recheck it and consider your children. (Yes, I know I'm going to get bashed for this because this is a clearly liberal post, but I'm not here to fight. Just please consider this.)
  • Allie

    April 27, 2016 at 5:22 pm
    Excellent!
  • Keith

    April 27, 2016 at 7:03 pm
    I am not against Trans people either. It is the Pandora box being opened for all the sickos out there to abuse the system. I am so glad my girls are getting older. Kids are being forced into adulthood and are losing their childhoods because of situations like this. I like the "single use" idea and renaming the family restroom. I just read of a perv trying to film young girls privates in a restroom to then sell on the Internet. It is not the Trans people that scare me. It is the unintended consequences that scare me.
  • Kitty

    April 27, 2016 at 7:10 pm
    I stand with Target. Will you stand with me? https://www.facebook.com/events/861617960631279/863252357134506/
  • Ben

    April 27, 2016 at 7:12 pm
    I really wish I had run across this earlier; all the good and bad, sane and inane comments are already taken. I'm left with "Golly gee, that was really good". Pathetic....
  • Kris

    April 27, 2016 at 7:28 pm
    Hey Heather, You say Target's new policy....news hun, it's not new. Ever go to Wal-mart? The same. Like Big Macs? Same. Home-Depot? Same. See the pattern? You need to be real. Nothing has changed except that Target was HONEST and publicly announced their policy. You are no more at risk than before. All this nonsense has done is get the uneducated riled up over something that isn't even an issue. I think that if you educated yoyrself instead of being blindly led by false, biggoted thoughts, you could relax and reclaim your own mental process. Make your kids proud they have a loving and tolerant parent that sets good example of fully understanding an issue to ensure you make the best decision possible. I mean no disrespect to you, sincerely. If you can find even one LAGITIMATE case where a true TG used their identity status to do harm to anyone else, celebrate! You have just found something that NO ONE else has been able to locate. Prove me wrong, please. Unlike some, I want all the FACTS before I can honestly say I'm dead wrong on this. Just one lagitimate TG incident. That should be easy, right? I'm looking fwd to your results. Are you? Don't you want to feel safe, again? You hold that key Heather....its called knowledge. Get some....it's free!
  • Chuck G.

    April 27, 2016 at 7:33 pm
    This is STILL the craziest, most misunderstood "law" that I have ever seen put to a debate. Here is how I see it as a father of girls and grandfather of even smaller little girls. In my opinion, it has very little to do with transgender folks. They have most likely been using whatever rest room they like for quite some time and will continue doing so. I'm more concerned about the man that is NOT TRANSGENDER that can now just "Legally" stroll into a ladies room or a girls locker room and just get completely undressed if he wants! And if anyone complains or calls police etc......all he has to say is that he "felt as though he identified as a woman today"!! And with that excuse.. He just walks away over next door where they have a ladies room and just does it again! See my point? It's got nothing to do with being a bigot or being prejudiced against transgender people in any way! It's just a common sense issue to me.
  • MOM

    April 27, 2016 at 7:36 pm
    http://www.kmov.com/story/29182491/peeping-tom-caught-filming-women-in-brentwood-target-dressing-rooms YOu are advocating for rape and pedophelia!!!!! Becuase of people like you women and children will no longer be or feel safe. Typical liberal logic.
  • MOM

    April 27, 2016 at 7:38 pm
    http://www.kmov.com/story/29182491/peeping-tom-caught-filming-women-in-brentwood-target-dressing-rooms IS the above just the best? :(
  • Ike

    April 27, 2016 at 7:44 pm
    Yeah, you kinda missed her point. You let your biases show and moved your typing hands before your logic circuits kicked in. She doesn't need to keep working on anything. She nailed it. I bet even the Pope would agree because HE gets it. Keep working on your reading.. It helps to synthesize the learning...
  • Martie

    April 27, 2016 at 7:58 pm
    Mary creed, did you honestly just say that her Cartman would be more impressive if she attacked a group of the larger voice? Who has a lodge your voice in the Catholic Church??
  • Amrtine

    April 27, 2016 at 8:46 pm
    But its not actually about ACTUAL catholic priests... its about men dressing as catholic priests to prey on your kids in oublic bathrooms!
  • CMey

    April 27, 2016 at 8:58 pm
    Aunt Mommy, will you run away with me? I love your work.
  • Lucy

    April 27, 2016 at 9:10 pm
    My question here is this, I'm born female... yet if I were a sicko pedophile and wanted to "gender identify" as a male and use the male bathrooms then this is okay? Or viseversa? When do we draw the line? Granted, priests have raped, teachers, parents, aunts, uncles etc.. but now we just make it easier for the public to have access just because I can push my titts down, wear baggy clothes and tie my hair up... I'm now apart of the "gay" community therefore my right to use the males bathroom cannot be taken from me.. just as any sick pedophile man can put on a dress, wig, and fake titts found at target... just to be apart of the "gay" community so he can gender identify and therefore use the same bathroom as any female and over take any of us, and our kids. As would a sick female to a little boy at the right time. I want to see any of you all pull out a phone or mase fast enough. Not going to happen. So that some of us are outraged YES!!! Being a mom to a little girl that loves to use the potty everywhere we go, you bet I think this is the stupidest thing to happen. So now get comfortable with my husband gender identifying with women, because I will NOT step into a public restroom by myself again. Silly or not. It's not Targets policy for just Transgender it's for "gender identity." So get the facts strait about the law that has passed before you all allow your kids, or even yourselves to use the bathroom.
  • Rick Lemyre

    April 27, 2016 at 9:44 pm
    *due diligence
  • Pete Gitlin

    April 27, 2016 at 11:02 pm
    Yes! Boycott Target...and any other sicko company that supports the rights of the LGBT community. Like Facebook and Google..don't go online anymore, even to sign the Target boycott petition. Like McDonald's and Coca Cola...don't eat your favorite junk food anymore. Like American Airlines or Disney...don't take a trip to Disneyland. As a matter of fact, if you are thinking of boycotting Target I suggest you take the most moral stand possible and stay home in November, and PRAY as hard as you can for Jesus to elect Ted Cruz or Donald Trump president. Sane people everywhere will appreciate your sacrifice.
  • Chris

    April 27, 2016 at 11:42 pm
    Good point about pedophiles going into a men's restroom where your little boy has gone. However, my problem with this is I myself, as a woman, would be mortified if I was using the bathroom or changing room, where I had my clothes off or my underwear down, and a man walks in!! I would be embarrassed, humilitated and yes, would be a little afraid. There needs to be a unisex bathroom for parents with kids of the opposite sex or disabled, people with elderly parents who need help, or people with gender identity issues. SOME Target store have this, certainly not all. They shouldn't have adopted this policy without making sure the unisex bathrooms were offered as well.
  • Al

    April 27, 2016 at 11:44 pm
    I read through all the comments and this was really only brought up twice. You mentioned how Hawaii has gender neutral bathrooms, but you don't mention that they're generally single stall, locking door rooms. Chloe, who felt the need to "Educate" everyone stated that she's against the separate bathroom policy because she equates her suffrage with that of the 1960-70s black community. Separate but equal, I believe is the proper terminology for such a thing. If Chloe doesn't believe that's fair, then why is there a men's and women's bathroom at all? If transgender individuals are equally free to use the restroom that they gender identify with, then why not make a single bathroom for everyone, because as per the logic in this, it would be the MOST inclusive solution and no one could worry about someone being in the wrong bathroom. You left out that Hawaii has separate gender neutral bathrooms, single stall, locking door rooms. Chloe states that's not acceptable, so then she's stating that a few of the places you've mentioned as being progressive aren't progressive enough for her... When does imposing upon someone else's rights in the name of equality ever work out?
  • Al

    April 27, 2016 at 11:49 pm
    Please understand that I'm trying to point out the glaring issues with how people see equality differently. I think everyone should have complete equality, in all their assorted ways that make us all special, but the moment you infringe upon the rights of another, it's not equality any more. Compromise over forced conformity, on either end of the spectrum.
  • Chris

    April 28, 2016 at 12:08 am
    Um, but that's what the uproar is all about. A "creepy guy dressed in drag" has just as much right to use the women's room as you do! You can't "call management".
  • Heather

    April 28, 2016 at 12:10 am
    Hi Kris, I have no idea what Big Macs and Home Depot have to do with this topic. Anyway, if you actually read my post, I said that I wasn't referring to transgendered people. I was referring to any and every pervert out there. I found more than one incidence where perverts found this perfect opportunity of posing as a woman to take advantage of women/children. https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/sexual-predator-jailed-after-claiming-to-be-transgender-in-order-to-assault http://thefederalist.com/2015/11/23/a-rape-survivor-speaks-out-about-transgender-bathrooms/ http://truthuncensored.net/man-arrested-after-claiming-to-be-transgender-filming-women-in-restroom-video/
  • cindy

    April 28, 2016 at 12:47 am
    you missed the point! no one cares about gay, trans or lesbian using bathrooms..its the perverts who can say I'm trans, and then does the unthinkable..they are looking for loopholes and this is it!
  • Christina

    April 28, 2016 at 12:49 am
    Awesome! Great job Aunt Mommy :)
  • Serena J. Mueller

    April 28, 2016 at 1:04 am
    YOU hit the nail on the FREAKING HEAD. This is phenomenal, and you used sarcasm in all the right ways. Thank you for writing it.
  • Doug

    April 28, 2016 at 1:23 am
    AMAZING...OMG!! Just incredible!! What a mess of Life, all for nothing. Nothing gained. Do you know how many Millions it takes to make Billions? Does the "L" in LGBT stand for "lobby"? It's all about YOU, aww being treated so in-equally aren't you. Why, your not hurting anyone else...are YOU?
  • Rachelle

    April 28, 2016 at 1:28 am
    I have never in my 46 years send a little girls bathroom and I have two daughters I raised from little girls. Why are little girls (or little boys for that matter) going into public restrooms by themselves anyway!
  • erich

    April 28, 2016 at 1:30 am
    "Not all priests are bad, of course, but I don’t really know how you enforce this policy without just keeping them all out." satire, and no catholic bashing at all, just responding to a fact. btw author, i dont read your blog, but i really liked this article haha
  • Angela

    April 28, 2016 at 1:57 am
    Freaking genius.
  • Annie

    April 28, 2016 at 2:07 am
    This is awesome!
  • Donna

    April 28, 2016 at 2:15 am
    Why priests? Why not teachers? Perhaps you haven't watched the news lately but there have been a lot of reports about teachers. Also, good job bashing an entire group of people by giving some"statistics" but not bothering to provide any source for those "facts.". What, exactly is " disciplinary action?". Does that include immediate removal of a priest from ministry when an accusation is made, regardless of the outcome? Given your large numbers, I'm assuming it does. Believe it or not, some accused priests are innocent. Unfortunately, there are people like you who believe all priests are pedophiles - we just haven't heard all the accusations yet. Two wrongs do not make a right. What you did is not unlike what you accused the other person of doing.
  • JJ

    April 28, 2016 at 2:17 am
    To make progressives appear sane, all the world must be driven mad; to make them appear noble, all the world must be humiliated by them and their fellow progressives.
  • Donna

    April 28, 2016 at 2:26 am
    Let it be... And let it happen (though I hope the act is not comp!eted, but only attempted). Let it happen to ME, because I will then bring a lawsuit against Target for creating the situation. If someone is truly transgendered, then nothing will happen. But it is entirely possible that a rapist could see this as an opportunity. When it happens, first, I hope the woman is able to perform a bathroom castration, and second, I hope she wiins an obscene amount of money in a lawsuit against Target. Easy way around this: Target can hire security for the restrooms for every moment there are people in the store. Or, install gender-neutral one-person-only restrooms. Neither is going to happen - they're not going to pay for that.
  • Woman with a vagina

    April 28, 2016 at 2:31 am
    if you have a penis you are a man and if you have a vagina you are a woman whether you are confused or just feel like playing dress up so stay the hell on you own side
  • Tracy b

    April 28, 2016 at 3:01 am
    If you are responding to the article...you know it's satire, right? I assume you read it. If you are responding to another person's comments, using the reply button sure does help clear that up!
  • Brian

    April 28, 2016 at 3:27 am
    This is priceless. I absolutely LOVE this and will be sharing it often. Good article.
  • Jeremy

    April 28, 2016 at 3:32 am
    You're free to hate what and where you want, except these places.... http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/04/26/all-the-things-you-can-no-longer-buy-if-you-re-really-boycotting-trans-friendly-businesses.html
  • Kandi

    April 28, 2016 at 3:48 am
    Well then it's a damn good thing that we don't have grown men that like little boys using men's restrooms and women who like little girls aren't in the women's' restrooms..oh WAIT.....pedophilia has NOTHING to do with gender identification, or sexual orientation (let me clarify that is smaller words) gay and TRASNGENDER (NOT "TRANSGENDERED" BTW) doesn't translate to pedophile (child molester). The name "Joshua Duggar" translates to PEDOPHILE. The name JARED FOGLE translates to PEDOPHILE. One of them likes little girls, the other likes little boys. I don't want them around ANY CHILDREN! And NEITHER Of them are gay or transgender. See how that works???? I'm sure you don't because you don't want to.
  • Cassie

    April 28, 2016 at 4:16 am
    I 💗this soooo much. Thank you!
  • LiteracyIsCool

    April 28, 2016 at 5:24 am
    Pete- I think your comment is my favorite! 😃
  • Cathy

    April 28, 2016 at 5:51 am
    I thought the letter was rather ignorant. People are nto concerned about transgender people but, rather men especially pretending to be transgender going into a woman's bathroom for what ever gives them their jollies. Also, where people want to shop at or not shop at is not your business and they have the right to choose. So stop being a hater and attacker. And making the Catholics look bad didn't help you make your point.
  • Linda

    April 28, 2016 at 6:27 am
    Wow. I can't believe I read your whole comment. It was difficult with the whole diatribe thing, spelling errors, and incessant use of quotation marks.
  • Sandy

    April 28, 2016 at 6:58 am
    Oh my gosh Christa, you forgot to mention all the statistics about the men pretending to be transgender just to get to go into the women's bathroom to cause harm ... because clearly, now that this is a "thing" 50% of the bad guys are going to want to get all dressed up like a woman, go out in public and go shopping at Target just to go into the Target women's bathroom (because we all know a man would not walk into a woman's bathroom, just because - wait, maybe 50% of them will want to go use the woman's bathroom now too, because of inclusiveness) ... Oh man, I can see why Mary Martha is so concerned. The majority of bad men are going to want to use the women's bathrooms ... and all the stats you mentioned are going to take a hockey stick spike (regardless of the stats in the states that have been inclusive for decades) and we are going to see issues in women's bathrooms because of these inclusive laws ... dam - we may have to go back to thinking about the shopping diapers ... goodness, I can't imagine why we would want someone looking like Caitlyn Jenner walking into a woman's bathroom and Chas Bono walking into a men's bathroom - it just would not be right! It might confuse someone! It's definitely going to encourage more rape and assault in bathrooms - because that's where bad guys go - we all know that - or at least 80% of us know that! (unfortunately statistics don't know that but my ass is very smart.)
  • Mary Grisaffi

    April 28, 2016 at 8:11 am
    I agree with this comment that bashing Catholics isn't really the best way to go. It's the all on none mentally that causes a lot of problems. But as the commenter also said good try.
  • Steph

    April 28, 2016 at 9:40 am
    What a great question! Well, I believe it's because those there trans people had the *audacity* to out themselves and live their lives how they wish, in public. How dare them. It sure did scare up a big ole controversy. (Please note my sarcasm) My question is, I wonder what IS BEING HIDDEN, since the media has decided to throw this big red being out here.
  • Steph

    April 28, 2016 at 9:44 am
    Do you understand that transgender people have been using the bathroom of their identifying gender for as long as transgender people have been? You have, in all likelihood, probably shared a bathroom trans person at least once before. They don't do this to scare you, or rape you (or your children) but to use the damn bathroom!
  • CINDI A KNOX

    April 28, 2016 at 11:40 am
    Hi. Transgender person, and Christian minister here. No, I'm not Catholic. Here's the thing: I transitioned 30 years ago. And I've been using the women's restrooms, fitting rooms, and locker rooms for those three decades, because I need to pee, to try on clothing, and to change into and out of workout wear and swimwear. I'm betting Mary Margaret uses the same spaces for the same reasons. We may even have done so at the same time and exchanged pleasantries briefly as we passed each other. But that's not my point. My point is that I'm a picky eater, and the food items you mentioned made me queasy. So I guess I have to write an open letter to Target asking them to take those items of their shelves. Also, please stop pulling numbers out of your ass. It's unsanitary. And you should probably be screened for numeric colon.
  • Sali

    April 28, 2016 at 12:08 pm
    Negativity is EVIL...Oops...Did I just call you evil?...Oh Well...Satan!
  • Troy knutson

    April 28, 2016 at 12:30 pm
    Perfect letter the hard right wing republicons are simply trying to create issues where there are none i havent heard of any rapes involving a transgender raping anyone ever it makes me wonder what the republicons real issue is though are they jealous of transgenders because they live in 2 worlds or is it envy ? And are they not part of the deadly sons which will send them to hell
  • Jeff

    April 28, 2016 at 1:04 pm
    Thank you. Great article with enough humor to brighten my day.
  • Vickie

    April 28, 2016 at 1:26 pm
    Its funny you should say that about yourself, I am the biggest tomboy I know! I keep my hair cropped less than a 1/4 inch, I never wear makeup or was ever interested in those girlie things, nail polish and such. But I was married to a wonderful, loving man for 13 years until his death in 2007. Never had a gay thought in my mind and yet, Ive been treated pretty bad sometimes because of idiot assumptions of what they think being gay/lesbian is.
  • Bob Kuhn

    April 28, 2016 at 2:22 pm
    Well, one can hope...
  • thorne garnet

    April 28, 2016 at 2:33 pm
    when I was in my 20's, I was touched on my rear end (twice)by a man in a store.................on the sales floor, no bathroom in sight. Can we just ban men from public places?
  • Kevin N

    April 28, 2016 at 2:37 pm
    Except you don't fix things by pretending they don't exist. Everything takes time. Nothing is fixed overnight. There will always be holdovers and jerks in the world. Our culture is getting so used to having everything handed to us instantly that we don't have the perseverance to enact real change. Stonewall was almost 50 years ago. It will take time. But know that those who sit on the wrong side of history will not be in charge forever. I don't know. Sorry. That ended up being kind of grandiose...
  • Kristi

    April 28, 2016 at 2:37 pm
    Sorry, what was it that Jesus always preached about? Oh yes, LOVE ONE ANOTHER AS I HAVE LOVED YOU.
  • Hank Aaron

    April 28, 2016 at 2:37 pm
    Further proof liberals are nothing but sociopathic bullies.
  • Lois

    April 28, 2016 at 2:41 pm
    I just have to say I have been a target shopper for a long thine and because I have a downs set from daughter I will protract her with everything in me and because of the transgender bathroowill no longer shop at your stores
  • cj

    April 28, 2016 at 3:09 pm
    http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/04/26/all-the-things-you-can-no-longer-buy-if-you-re-really-boycotting-trans-friendly-businesses.html
  • Hikiki

    April 28, 2016 at 3:19 pm
    gasp* not a penis!! She'll be traumatized forever! Where were they supposed to pee? Out in public where even more people can see? It's just a penis. She'll probably see more in her lifetime. It would have been nice if they closed the door, but it really isn't a big deal, unless you make it one.
  • Catherine Durnford-Wang

    April 28, 2016 at 3:25 pm
    With any luck it will be the end of the discriminating and bigoted America that we are getting to know.
  • Julie

    April 28, 2016 at 3:33 pm
    "Immoral." Hilarious, and an interesting word choice. Are we as immoral as Dennis Hastert?
  • Julie

    April 28, 2016 at 3:35 pm
    (That was to smr1688, btw.)
  • Alias

    April 28, 2016 at 3:50 pm
    I carry concealed firearms in Target, but I don't go online bashing people, saying one group is better than another. Aunt mommy id just as big a bigot as anyone else.
  • Jaimee

    April 28, 2016 at 4:29 pm
    Great response to, what I feel is fear-based hatred toward people that represent something the "fear-mongers" dont understand. Didn't this same kind of thing happen when "the black man" were finally allowed to use the same bathrooms, restaurants, stores, etc. as "the white man"? (And at that time "the black or white woman" had not even been given much of a voice). This same kind of scrutiny was presented when "gay communities" found their voice. "It was unnatural" they said; "they will molest our children!" they said. It all just floors me. This "great land of the free" and "country of great possibilities" is stifled by so many "not so great close-minded men & woman".
  • A Boycott, A Bathroom, and the Fine Art of Discrimination – The Harbored and Homesick

    April 28, 2016 at 5:05 pm
    […] and that it is all for the good of the many that we may inconvenience the few, but I think Aunt Mommy says it best when she says, “doesn’t that argument sound a lot like George Wallace refusing […]
  • Shauna

    April 28, 2016 at 5:09 pm
    Absolutely Love This!
  • Kelly

    April 28, 2016 at 5:55 pm
    LOVE this. I do however see that there becomes a potential legal issue when a person with ill intentions (most likely pedophiles and not a transgendered person) tries to prey on a child of opposite sex and can claim innocence as they are simply using the bathroom with which they associate themselves with. How unfair to the current percent of children, (whatever number you wish to pull from your rear), who were assaulted in some manner by a same sexed person and didn't have the benefit of saying that their assaulter is obviously guilty because they were in the wrong bathroom!
  • Liz

    April 28, 2016 at 6:00 pm
    So, you do know that "pretending to be transgender" to *assault* someone is now and always will be a crime right? The assault part of that makes it a crime. When I go into the womens restroom, I close the door, lock the stall and pee. I don't see anyones genitals and they don't see mine. Your children will still be protected from criminals. Lets say for a minute that you are correct, and a ton of men are suddenly going to dress as women so they can go into bathrooms to do.. what exactly? Are they going to peek under the door? Peek over the stall? Expose themselves to others? Assault people? All of those are already crimes and will still be a crime. And they are all crimes if a woman does it to another woman in a bathroom too.
  • A

    April 28, 2016 at 8:00 pm
    THANK YOU!!! 😍😍
  • E

    April 28, 2016 at 9:24 pm
    Thank you for a great read.
  • Moni

    April 28, 2016 at 9:46 pm
    Thank goodness there are people working to end America as we know it so we can move towards a more humane version of America!
  • Jaime Erin Fivecoat

    April 28, 2016 at 11:43 pm
    Loved your letter and the points you made. As a transwoman who uses and has used the women's restrooms for years I must say Thank You.
  • Wendy

    April 29, 2016 at 12:00 am
    I understand satire and I found the overall piece clever and amusing... but as a Catholic I was uncomfortable with the Catholic comments as well. It probably doesn't read the same to someone who is not Catholic. I have many friends and even family members in the LGBT community and I love them all. The fact is that the Catholic community is more accepting and supportive of the LGBT community than most other Christian denominations . You keep saying "I just stated actual facts" regarding the predatory priests, but actually satire generally isn't concerned with facts, so... were you writing satirically, or factually? The overall tone seems anti Catholic from my perspective. http://ncronline.org/blogs/distinctly-catholic/new-report-catholic-attitudes-towards-lgbt-issues
  • William melton

    April 29, 2016 at 12:00 am
    Want to be treated equal as human . Act equal and be human . I don't want to see openly sex confused people around little children or big children . God made male a female .Don't try to change that . Got a sex problem ? See a shrink . But don't put my friends or family at risk . I WILL react .
  • TjR

    April 29, 2016 at 12:35 am
    I am a Catholic and I was not offended. The truth is the truth. It was obvious what the point of the comparison was. Well done!
  • Helen Streett

    April 29, 2016 at 12:52 am
    This is one of the best satirical essays I've ever read! You very effectively used truths to highlight the absurd. I agree with your tapping into the pedophile priest debacle. Not enough can be said about that in my opinion. Of course, we could also pick on republican legislators - big time pedophile population. But Catholic priests are more fun to pick on because of their "sacred vows". They are the ultimate irony. Anyway,,,thank you for being so clever and smart and outspoken! Can't wait to see what you write next!
  • Libby Hall

    April 29, 2016 at 1:57 am
    Do you feel comfortable with strangers walking around with guns? Strangers who could be intent on opening fire, killing numerous people, which happens multiple times each year? Why would you let a young child use public restrooms alone in the first place? That's just irresponible. Also, you DO realize that you've been peeing with transgendered people your entire life, regardless what faux Christian, backwoods red state you live in, right? And, you realize that your stupid little boycott will not change Target's policy, because for evey paranoid, poorly informed, bogotted moron who refuses to shop at Target, they will gain more shoppers, right? Also, while you've been wringing your hands over this non-issue, the GOP lead Congress voted to decline funds to help clean up Flint's water system, which is far greater a threat to countless children than a transgendered person nedding to pee. BTW: I'm a heterosexual woman So, honey, grow the hell up
  • Francine Seragusa

    April 29, 2016 at 3:25 am
    No NO, her use was absolutely perfect...!!!! Her point well stated...A priest...a man of the cloth, God's messenger...are there not as many that could be pedophiles...as are not...YES she used this perfectly! PS I am Catholic but I can't buy into all this crap...God judges not me and CERTAINLY NOT YOU!
  • Francine Seragusa

    April 29, 2016 at 3:30 am
    Wendy, a Catholic here and I loved everything she said and trust me her satire was perfect with her blend of factual information... as for the whole priest thing...Yea have to say that creeps me out more than gays and transgenders... God's messengers ...trust them...and tho it may only be a few...It makes me very guarded...
  • Francine Seragusa

    April 29, 2016 at 3:35 am
    William, you know what makes me uncomfortable...probably 5 times as much as a transgender person might make you...??? Someone open carrying in the meat isle of the supermarket...(bet that doesn't bother you at all) Now that makes me want to react...
  • Susie

    April 29, 2016 at 4:29 am
    Beautifully stated! Enough with everyone boycotting everything because something does not go their way or suit them to a tee! If I don't like something, like waiting in long lines at Walmart, I no longer go there. Target never makes me wait. They have my business!!
  • Carrie

    April 29, 2016 at 5:54 am
    Still offended, you lost my interest in your opinion at that point.
  • A

    April 29, 2016 at 6:53 am
    NO SHOPPING DIAPERS FOR YOU!!
  • Pattie

    April 29, 2016 at 7:28 am
    Thank you! Proud that you share a name with my daughter! So awesome, I have to share this on FB!
  • Kristi Stine

    April 29, 2016 at 1:22 pm
    Amen! It's utterly stupid that with all the real problems we have, we are worried about infringing upon the "rights" of .03% of the population. Whatever happened to common sense? This bathroom debate is one of the most ridiculous things ever. Because a few people are having an identity crises, the majority is to give up their rights? If you have a penis you're a man. If you have a vagina you're a woman. Is it really that complicated? If you have a penis and dress up like a woman then you are a drag queen. Stupid stupid stupid. Find a real cause, there are MANY out there.
  • Kathi

    April 29, 2016 at 2:12 pm
    No you are the end of America. This is supposed to be the land of the free and the home of brave. But people like you with you're closed minds and fake fear for the children and your "god says this" bullshit are ending MY country. Seperatiin of church and state because not every believes in your god. You are immoral, so continue to hid behind your religion and when you die explain to Saint Peter why it was okay for you to hate but how you're good christian. Because I'm sure he'll let you in.
  • July

    April 29, 2016 at 2:25 pm
    Absolutely agree with you position Christina Black. Wonderful comment which actually makes sense. It did not get any response from an author. Is it because there is nothing to laugh about?
  • Rudy

    April 29, 2016 at 2:33 pm
    To William Meltdown, who WILL REACT. Why are you reading the Aunt Mommy blog in the first place? Do you have a secret fetish for boyish lesbians? Were you googling "transgender" stuff and got all "react-y?" Just curious. Go take a cold shower and try to stop thinking about "sex problems." Thanks for the laugh.
  • Ginette Archambault

    April 29, 2016 at 4:13 pm
    As I am Canadian, then I guess it is okay for me to agree 300% with the letter, as I a, not endangering the USA. Fiou....I would have hate to have this on my conscience
  • Elizabeth Hatcher

    April 29, 2016 at 6:30 pm
    America as we know it sucks, and places like Target are trying to make it better by not discriminating against anyone. Discrimination is BAD, we learn this when we are little kids. There is freedom of religion, which gives you the right to worship as you will. That does not give you the right to try and force the rest of society to live by your personal religious ideology. Keep your religion to yourself, and let people pee in peace.
  • Jenn

    April 29, 2016 at 7:28 pm
    Lol, perfect
  • Brianna Emilija Grażyna

    April 29, 2016 at 9:39 pm
    Really, how so?
  • Brianna Emilija Grażyna

    April 29, 2016 at 9:50 pm
    Really Bradley, interesting. When has there been an instance where a trans person, male or female, has assaulted someone in a restroom? NEWS FLASH. ......,IT HASN'T HAPPENED!
  • Ricki

    April 29, 2016 at 11:52 pm
    Irony..... appeasing one group of people, because they are uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with people they do not identify with, by forcing the other 90% of this nation to do the same. Target, you obviously spent about 3 seconds thinking this through. If you really wanted to be all inclusive you would have broadened your policy to include the feelings and comfort zones of transgenders, heterosexuals, homosexuals, and children. I do not feel comfortable sharing a restroom or dressing room with men. This stems from personal experiences that I will not share here because I fear my experiences and feelings will be mocked and ridiculed. I will not shop at your store until you come up with a better solution. Being transgender, a male, a female, a boy, or a girl does not make a person a pervert, predator, or pedophile. We all need to remember this policy was implemented by Target, NOT transgenders. So, I agree, attacking the transgender community is ridiculous. The real problem for most of us is the fact that this policy causes the restrooms and dressing rooms to feel like a free for all. I completely understand why that makes people from all walks of life uncomfortable. We do not know their stories so why would we laugh at their fears? A few years ago, I was using a restroom at a public park. This was not a locking bathroom even though there was only one stall. While washing my hands a woman walked in with a young boy in tow. I can only guess but he appeared to be around 4. It didn’t take a degree in psychiatry to quickly notice my presence was making him uncomfortable. I hurriedly dried my hands then told his mother I would step outside and prevent others from coming in until they were finished. Only one person showed up while I was at the door and, thankfully, she was thoughtful and happy to wait. In situations like that, I can’t help but remember the things I experienced as a child and being able to help that little boy feel more comfortable and less exposed was healing for me as well but more importantly it speaks to the situation at hand. Most young children feel uncomfortable So, instead of demeaning the fears of millions of people and cloaking our actions in sarcasm and “satire” let’s come together and encourage Target and all businesses to provide us with a solution that works for everyone. How about converting restrooms and dressing rooms to completely enclosed locking single occupancy (including some that will accommodate wheelchairs and those who need assistance)? Label them simply “Restroom” or “Dressing Room”, you know, completely generic. This would allow people with sensory issues, PTSD, panic disorders a moment of solitude as well so they could calm themselves and continue shopping. Not only would this be all inclusive, it would be so much safer than anything we have now, and allow Target to be a great example for other businesses to follow.
  • tjmm

    April 30, 2016 at 1:22 am
    Amen...where in the world is "common sense"? This is not something to be made fun of! Just wait for it...the fall out will come!
  • Chelly

    April 30, 2016 at 2:04 am
    Thank goodness I don't need to be a stall mate to small minded people since they aren't going to be going to Target anymore. Every Target I've ever gone to and used the restroom at has alwaya been very clean and private. That's what I care about. How clean it is and how private it is. Target has always done well with those factors and I'm sure they will continue to do so. That's what I'll continue to judge my public bathrooms by. Keep up the good work Target. I'll continue to use you as my emergency stopping point.
  • Sensation

    April 30, 2016 at 12:01 pm
    Marry Martha's letter is so much more informative and written in a respectful manner, which i can't say about this letter. She is not accusing transgender people of being a danger to anyone. And I personally think they should be treated as an equal. But, unfortunately, you can't do it with a bathroom situation. As Mary Martha saying in her open letter it is opening doors (or making it very easy) to all kind of perverts to get in opposite sex restroom. This letter, honestly, seems like a marketing article, written by someone who wants to keep more people from boycotting Target stores. Sorry it didn't do it for me. I am not going there no more.
  • Jessie

    April 30, 2016 at 12:30 pm
    I do not agree with the policy change that a person is able to use any bathroom. I am not afraid for me or my daughters to use the bathroom with transgender person. I am sure I have many times. However, my concern is, where does it end. I fear for children when schools start allowing transgender individuals to start using the locker rooms of the gender that they identify with. I do not want my daughter exposed to a male penis while showering or changing. Where do we draw the line for the safety of ALL children?
  • Kylee

    April 30, 2016 at 12:57 pm
    Oh damn, mic drop!
  • Denise

    April 30, 2016 at 2:47 pm
    Have you not seen the video of the WOMAN being harassed by the police in the restroom because she looked like a guy and was shoved out of the restroom by them? That's why they need the laws!
  • Mary Jane

    April 30, 2016 at 4:23 pm
    I love you and your snarkiness! <3
  • Melinda Powell

    April 30, 2016 at 5:23 pm
    II am appalled at some of the things I am reading in the comment section. What has happened to decent grammar? Good Christian punctuation? Godly spelling? As an elementary teacher I have to tell you that I would NOT let my children use the restroom beside someone who doesn't know the difference between "affect" and "effect." Don't even get me started on "there," " their," and "they're." I knew once the Oxford comma issue passed that this country was going to you-know-where. Shocking.
  • Susan Petonic

    April 30, 2016 at 5:47 pm
    Here goes the Catholic bashing again - strange in this era of "political correctness" that this has been allowed to go on since I was a child and I am now 59 years old! Child predators choose professions that will avail them closeness to children - NOT JUST PRIESTS! Ministers, Rabbis, coaches, teachers, Boy & Girl Scout leaders, etc. are all examples!
  • Nynrose

    April 30, 2016 at 6:12 pm
    If that means we're promoting change for the better, than I'm glad to be part of that change. Staying stuck in old ways of thinking does nothing but continue to hurt the people around you.
  • Victoria Reid

    April 30, 2016 at 8:28 pm
    and management will tell you creepy men are now welcome in the womens' bathrooms at Target, so you have no right to complain
  • Kaye Lovelace

    April 30, 2016 at 10:15 pm
    Jus like the 50"s, 60's, 70's over again. Grow up people and let people be who they are. I am not worried about the outside but how people treat others. And have you never used the mens(women's) single stall bathroom because the other had a line and you couldn't wait?
  • Going

    May 1, 2016 at 1:20 am
    for people who do not want trans to be bashed, you certainly do an outstanding job of bashing everyone else...Hypocrites!!! If you were really as smart as you THINK you are, you'd KNOW it is NOT the trans people "fear" it is the THUGS who PRETEND to be so they can molest and photo little girls, teen girls, Moms, and Grandmothers...it is the pretenders who dress up just to molest...we know the trans are not interested in women anyhow...
  • Maria

    May 1, 2016 at 1:22 am
    I can't even read this whole letter. This shows exactly how stupid people are these days bringing priest into this. Let's start the Catholic bashing. It never ends with the liberals. Just shows how sick the world has come. Grow up people.
  • Rachel

    May 1, 2016 at 2:08 am
    Where do you get the idea that a man who claims that he identifies as a woman can just stroll into a women's restroom and get undressed? Do you imagine that the ladies' room is just a vast chamber with toilets scattered around? There are individual stalls, with doors. And, FYI, it's still illegal to expose yourself in public, male or female, excepting breastfeeding mothers, so what you're describing is illegal regardless of the bathroom laws or policies in place.
  • Laura Dudley

    May 1, 2016 at 3:17 am
    There is no need for a law,....This is a republican agenda to put fear in a certain sector of gullible people, in order to possibly secure future votes and cause a big hullabaloo, where there was none. And while your attention is on this, they are trying to do away with free lunches for kids and pre-existing medical conditions that are now covered under your insurance. Also, if you notice, a lot of the politicians that push for this crap, are the ones who get busted for it themselves. You know, those moral majority, family values type that get caught for adultery, drugs, molestation, For example, the most recent, Hastert,...who spearheaded the effort to impeach Clinton,...granted, he was wrong, but at least it was sex between consenting adults,..rather than a man using his authority figure status to prey on young boys, and pay them hush money, while at the same time saying that child molesters should get life in prison. The he gets caught, finally goes to court, rolling in in his wheelchair and backed by 60 letters of recommendation, including Tom Delay, saying how Godly he is etc.,....and taking a mere 15 months in prison for his actions,.... Some crazy times we be livin in!
  • Sandi

    May 1, 2016 at 3:34 am
    WHY you would let a 5-year-old young boy go into the men's room by himself is a mystery to me. Usually they are accompanied by an adult male or much older sibling or they go into the women's restroom with Mom.
  • Cat

    May 1, 2016 at 4:17 am
    As many others have said, the point is not transgenders, who have been going about their business quietly. The point is the 806,000+ registered (and growing) sex offenders in the United States - more sex offenders than there are transgenders, actually. A simple Google search will give you dozens of examples of instances where non-transgendered men have dressed in drag or faked being trans in order to access women's-only areas for the sole purpose of assaulting women- Toronto, Ontario, Prince William County, VA, Seattle, WA, Orange County, CA, Palmdale, CA, Smyrna, TN, Pitman, NJ, Logan County, OK, Iowa City, IA, Quarryville, PA, Athens, GA, Montgomery County, MA, Brentwood, MO, and more. No, transgendered folk are not the problem. Perverts who are taking advantage of these new policies to prey on women and children (both boys and girls) are the problem.
  • Christina McRoberts

    May 1, 2016 at 8:58 am
    http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/04/26/all-the-things-you-can-no-longer-buy-if-you-re-really-boycotting-trans-friendly-businesses.html
  • Terri

    May 1, 2016 at 12:17 pm
    I am boycotting Hobby Lobby due to their corporate stand on a woman's right to birth control and I will continue to shop at Target. This is called personal freedom. We Americans live in a society that allows us to practice our values...aren't we fortunate.
  • Sandy

    May 1, 2016 at 2:44 pm
    I get it that this is satire, but it sounds a whole lot to me like an either/or proposition. EITHER transgender individuals are respected and heard OR moms concerned about their children's safety are respected and heard. I'm in favor of both/and. Let's work for a solution that respects both transgender individuals and concerned parents. I'm not sure what that looks like but I'm guessing it begins with education. Also, if we could go back in time to the period when transgender individuals were sharing public bathrooms with others without legislation, it seems to me that was working okay. Transgender individuals were using the facilities they required and pedophiles and exhibitionists were NOT told a method they could use to access women and children (by cross-dressing and entering a ladies room) in a closed-off environment without a panic button. Too bad we can't unring that bell.
  • Xmystic

    May 1, 2016 at 6:35 pm
    Nice try, but your analogy sucks.
  • Bob Klahn

    May 1, 2016 at 11:17 pm
    As a Catholic I get what she is saying, and it does get the point across.
  • lyn

    May 2, 2016 at 12:41 am
    I am saying no to religion that needs an ever-encroaching enemy in order to give itself life and to stimulate zeal and to make itself feel valid. I am saying no to the faith of least resistance, that eschews the difficult and the complex conversations, in favor of stark black and white caricatures of the righteous and the wicked, of the inside and outside.
  • Camille

    May 2, 2016 at 3:20 am
    Amen girl! Great letter! I just love the comments by folks who dont understand satire. Idiots. U didnt get ur point across? Only to a few idiots who prefer to be bigots and werent planning on listening to u to begin with. Im not worred about target. They didnt close after their financial info was stolen. Ppl may boycott for a short oeriod but they will be back and those going out of their way to shop there now, like me, will make up the difference.
  • Camille

    May 2, 2016 at 3:27 am
    The one question i hace been asking from the beginning is "why is ur small child using ANY restroom alone anyways?". Someone mentioned how do we make both sides feel comfortable? I think u alrdy answered that. Either use the family restroom or dont use one at all if u have small children u are concerned about.
  • Amy

    May 2, 2016 at 4:39 pm
    Agree completely. She made a lot of great points which would be better received without the anti Catholic tone to the whole thing
  • Amy

    May 2, 2016 at 4:45 pm
    Been wondering this myself. How do you even know if someone in there is transgender?? What are you doing looking at someone while they go to the bathroom? I just don't get it
  • Michele

    May 2, 2016 at 5:10 pm
    I went through 12 years of Catholic Schools- it's NOT against Catholics or priests.... Christa's letter was brilliant!!!!!
  • Kevin

    May 2, 2016 at 6:50 pm
    Your point is lost on those that know the real problem behind the priest scandal. The church was offered as a "safe space" for homosexual pedophiles after Vatican II. This was condoned by "progressive" homosexual Bishops and priests alike. We Catholics who understand what happened know the evil that infiltrated the Church being wolves in sheep's clothing. But to blanket statement against the Catholic church itself (as if hiding the issue was the Church itself) other than those perverted homosexual priest and homosexual bishops that covered it up you are pointing in the wrong direction! You should be ashamed of yourself! Target does not care about being inclusive they pulled this costly stunt to benefit nothing but their bottom line ($) by seeming to "care" about the LGBT community. Nothing more nothing less. If they really cared about all of their customers they would pony up and put their money where their mouth is and build unisex bathrooms in all of their stores. This would be helpful as well for mothers with sons or fathers with daughters including handicapped with caregiver etc... it is all marketing and in trying to defend their marketing ploy you have degraded all Catholics to make your specious point!
  • KOKO SWENSON

    May 3, 2016 at 2:53 am
    Douche'.
  • Colby

    May 3, 2016 at 12:13 pm
    I'm sorry but women and children have never been safe. The weaker have always fallen prey to monsters who are stronger than they are. I very sparingly use piblic restrooms and my children only use them if i am there to deter predators. My diligence in protecting myself and my children will not be affected by this new issue.
  • Sandy

    May 3, 2016 at 5:21 pm
    It's not just small children that people are concerned about and not every business/location/school has a family bathroom. I think some of the recent fuss has stemmed from transgender individuals changing clothes in locker rooms without stalls or privacy curtains but the uproar has carried over into the debate about publc bathrooms.
  • XaurreauX

    May 3, 2016 at 5:30 pm
    They just ain't warshed in the blud! WARSHED IN THE BLUDDA JEEZUS!!! AY-MIN!!!
  • Ed

    May 3, 2016 at 6:05 pm
    Was trying to come up with a response myself without getting mean, your is spot on.
  • Ed

    May 3, 2016 at 6:14 pm
    So, if you see the creepy man in or hanging around the restrooms then call the police if you don't trust the manger. Also,mI would point out upper management frowns on their employees ignoring valid complaints of customers about creepy men or women who hang around restrooms.
  • Shannon

    May 3, 2016 at 7:24 pm
    I do not feel comfortable having a male in the same bathroom or fitting room as me. It is a disgrace that me as a rape victim has to worry about my safety or my daughters while we are shopping and need to try something on or need to use the restroom. Target has no compassion for woman in my eyes to even allow such a thing! They can solve this whole issue by creating a unisex fitting room and bathroom there is no reason to continue with this nonsense. My family and I have always shopped at Target and I spend good hard earned money there but with this news we will be shopping elsewhere. Please have compassion for your female guests as well as your LGT guests
  • Shannon

    May 3, 2016 at 7:27 pm
    We dont use the family restroom due to possibility of male interaction my daughter is 12.. Do we as parents need to gaurd the doors so no males come in the womans restroom!!
  • Nancy Snyder

    May 3, 2016 at 11:10 pm
    Perfectly written, thank you for sharing!!
  • Olli

    May 4, 2016 at 5:15 am
    Firstly, no transgender people are trying to make other people feel uncomfortable, they're just trying to pee or try on some clothes. Secondly, it's not discrimination to call out a multinational, multibillion dollar, world superpower for actively inhibiting the prosecution and detainment of criminal, shielding and relocating known child molesters, engaging in the discourse of justice, paying off victims and covering up thousands, if not millions, of incidents of what is probably the most egregious violation of human rights, and the most reprehensible of human behaviours.
  • Samber

    May 4, 2016 at 6:32 pm
    Thank you for giving me a brilliant, thoughtful, entertaining article to send irrational trolls to. And, sorry that those irrational trolls come and comment on your article...
  • Joan

    May 5, 2016 at 1:16 pm
    That was the point.
  • Debby

    May 5, 2016 at 2:07 pm
    Well put! =:-D
  • Kennedy

    May 5, 2016 at 8:45 pm
    Another instance of trying to be politically correct. The masses must accommodate every quirk, as to not offend anyone. Pure bullshit. Get a life
  • Joy Myers

    May 7, 2016 at 2:40 am
    Did you ever consider proof reading what you write before publishing it publicly? That was one of the most convoluted statements I've read in a long time. I don't even know what you mean by 'criminal statistics of minors', or how that is related to anything, therefore, I can't be sure if it is wrong & disgusting. Then you give an example of Muslims bombing public places & could therefore be banned from public restrooms as justification of the author's point "not making sense'. WTF?!? I don't even know where to begin with that bunch of gurgling. I'll try though, since I apparently have a sub conscious masochistic streak begging to be fed. 1) I'm not sure there have been any documented cases of Muslims blowing up bathrooms, especially in Target. 2) Wait a minute...what the hell do suicide bombers have to do with bathroom usage, transgender issues, child abuse or Catholic priests? I'm only on #2 and I've already confused myself, probably because the answer is 'nothing'...nothing at all'. The issue at hand is that people are freaking out about Transgender people using the correct bathroom because it will inevitably lead to sexual abuse of children. Pedophilia among a percentage of Catholic priests is a known fact, therefore, it is the perfect analogy...suicidal bombers are so off topic it's mind boggling. The author wasn't 'going after' priests, merely quoting mathematical statistics to make a point.. satirically. She also wasn't 'going after' Catholics...merely making reference to a humorous phrase 'Catholic guilt'...used by millions, including billions of Catholics themselves (Could you tell I made that statistic up?) You finish with a link (that doesn't work) to businessmen being hacked to death in Bangladesh (Who were neither Catholic or child molesters it appears). OMG, I'm exhausting my brain so I'll just close with respectfully disagreeing with your assertion that you 'appreciate sarcasm as much as the next person'...not this person. You absolutely do not come close to appreciating it as much as this person...but, in all fairness...I think one has to possess an accurate definition of sarcasm in order to claim enjoyment of it.
  • Katherine

    May 8, 2016 at 12:40 am
    I'm sure Auntie Mommy also didn't figure out that Target is allowing MEN the women's restroom. MEN dressed as men because Heaven forbid, we do not have tolerance for others who have no tolerance for anyone but their own lifestyle
  • k holder

    May 13, 2016 at 4:29 pm
    I understand facts too, and the fact that priest did molest, was because they were opportunistic. i.e. being alone with boys where they could use that position to do as they pleased. And I have been in a restroom with a transgender person that did, flop out his stuff for all to see. Not in a stall or privacy. I have issue with it because people like him/her do take liberties, or pervs who would take advantage. I'd rather just have one everyone goes room, so you know, "hey if I go in there, this is what might be seen..ect. " and that way no pervs or people who'd take advantage, would be legally in the bathroom... And the satire is mostly lost, because it makes you seems "racist" against religious people. Crime happens, and we can't be "safe " everywhere, but I'd rather not take chances. There are a lot more places I have to feel unsafe in, why make the restroom , one of them?And just so you know, I have friends of all colors, and aunt who is gay( and I love she and her partner very much) and I am atheist.
  • Amy

    May 14, 2016 at 8:53 pm
    Except there have already been problems because of policies such as this, such as in Canada. No one is saying that it will be the transgender population to cause the problems, but by setting a law or policy that allows you to choose which restroom to use based on what you "feel" means there isn't any legitimate basis to stop someone from using this policy for harm or evil. It doesn't even necessarily have to be rape. Voyerism is a much more likely incident. There are other solutions that don't put the rest of the population at risk. We should be searching for those solutions instead. Here's an article explaining what happened in Toronto. Canada is way more progressive than the United States and they are already changing their mind about similar policies. I think it is definitely something to consider. http://www.dailywire.com/news/330/university-toronto-dumps-transgender-bathrooms-pardes-seleh
  • sandimarie giles

    May 25, 2016 at 5:47 am
    I am a 44yr old transwoman who absolutely loves this letter thanki you so much I was sick of hearing about how we transgenders are all child molesters and should not be allowed to pee,what these people who boycott target don't realise is a lot of us have loving caring children ourselves ,so why would we ever wnt to harm any children,and boycotters why would you let young children go in a toilet alone anyway,when they are old enough sure its fine,when my children were young if it was just 1 parent with them I usually go into family rooms anyway and if they weren't availoable I would take them all in the same toilet each in their locked stalls,noone evr complained,this boycott is ridiculous and I thank eachand every target employer for accepting us with nop ill will you are a godsend ty so much going to target shopping is now even more enjoyable tyxxxxx
  • Meemee Ball

    June 1, 2016 at 2:45 am
    Love your Target support. You and Trae Crowder, The Liberal Redneck, should run for President and Vice President. What a wonderful world that would be. : )
  • Jen

    June 8, 2016 at 5:45 pm
    My two -cents is this. Are you going to pass me some toilet paper if I need it? Yes? Then we're cool! No, then a thousand pox on your house!
  • Jen

    June 8, 2016 at 5:47 pm
    sandimarie, you can use the stall next to me anytime. We can even get coffee at Starbuck when we can done shopping! :)

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